I seem to have amnesia when it comes to achievement. After a challenging couple of years around bereavement and ensuing family health issues affecting household income followed by an enforced house move I think my confidence suffered hugely.
As someone who now works as a Life and Business Coach and has worked in training, education and development I somehow expect myself to be Teflon coated, but I’m not! I’m simply human and also have vulnerabilities despite being outwardly confident, competent and achievement oriented. A fellow coach told me of a client who claimed she ‘used to have a degree’! I totally relate – I sometimes simply forget all of my lifetime accomplishments! These reminders often come from external feedback or probing questions.
I know that it is this vulnerability that gave birth to my desire to support others to overcome adversity, find potential and strive for their goals. Many people just need a compassionate soul to encourage and inspire them towards their deepest secret ambitions. Now, as a fully grown and responsible adult I believe in the support of a coach and mentor to keep up momentum of forward movement to prevent me from living a life of quiet desperation.
I know that on my journey I have had the benefit of teachers and managers who believed in me as well know the damage caused by those who didn’t. All of this has helped to create the internal dialogues that can on one hand tell me I’m not good enough and on the other tell me I am. The brain and the ego work in mysterious ways creati g internal conflict but herein lies our endless potential.
In the end I can only look at the evidence of the distance travelled in life and the loving connections I’ve made along the way. I am loved, I am loving, I am living well. I can always choose enough treat myself with care and compassion knowing that I deserve everything good in life. I can forgive myself for my vulnerability, I can value myself as I would value everyone I hold in high regard. I can forgive myself for not being perfect and accept that my imperfections protect me from arrogance and leave me room for growth whilst allowing me to be accepting of others particularly those who I press my buttons or transgress my values.
Ultimately, I am good enough – and so are you! Xx